So many of us, especially women, are taught (explicitly or not) that “no” should be followed by a comma and an explanation.
We are taught that “no” should be part of a compound sentence.
Fun fact: “No” is a complete sentence.
Of course if you *want* to offer further information along with your “no” then go ahead.
But we actually don’t *have* to.
But Karli, that’s weird…
I totally thought so too.
Turns out that is some societal garbage ingrained in our heads.
I promise it’s actually not nearly as weird or offensive or mean or rude (or any other synonym) as you think it is!
Don’t believe me?
I dare you :)
And if you feel weird saying just one syllable as an answer then you can follow it up with a phrase that is not an explanation of justification (or straight up lie…you know you’ve done it).
No, thank you.
No, I can’t, so sorry.
No, thanks for inviting me though.
No, I don’t.
No, but thanks for thinking of me.
At first I felt awkward doing it.
Then I noticed no one cared.
Then it felt freeing.
Then it felt fun!
Now, it feels empowering.
My challenge for you is:
Say no + a follow-up phrase - an explanation.
And let me know how it goes!