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Top 3 Lies You’ve Been Told About Happiness

Do you think real happiness is achievable in your life?

Do you have any idea how to make that happen for yourself?

We’ve been fed some interesting narratives around the concept of Happiness. Let’s dive in, and hopefully reframe the way we think about - and act on - the pursuit of happiness!

LIE: Happiness = eating that cookie or do that thing that just feels good

FACT: Happiness is NOT the same as Pleasure

Things that just make you feel good (e.g. eating that cookie, wearing those cozy pajamas, lighting a candle) is not the same as happiness.

That’s called pleasure.

Pleasure is not inherently bad - it’s totally fine!

It’s also not the same thing as happiness. Two things can be true at once.

Happiness is in your soul. And that cookie is not going to move your soul and fulfill your life. Sorry, cookie.


LIE: I need to seek people and things that bring me happiness

FACT: Happiness does NOT come from others

Happiness is internal, NOT external.

You have to define it and work towards it yourself.

If you place your happiness (or worth, or value, or purpose) in others you will always fall short.

Not because they failed you, but because happiness lives in your soul and that is entirely your thing, not theirs.

External factors can contribute to your happiness, sure. But the actual fulfillment and joy that accompanies happiness come from YOU, buttercup!

To help shift your mindset, ask yourself:

“What did I do today to contribute to my happiness?” rather than “what did others do to make me happy today?”